I was recently working with someone who has an iron deficiency. She eats salads and the greens have iron in them. She has made improvements in her diet to eat more whole foods so what could be happening as I know many people have this same issue.
Iron deficiency causes anemia. Red blood cells contain hemoglobin, which is a red, iron-rich protein that carries oxygen from the lungs to the body's muscles and organs. These cells also remove carbon dioxide from cells and carry it to the lungs to be exhaled. Anemia occurs when the body does not have enough red blood cells. Individuals who are anemic may experience fatigue because the heart has to work harder to deliver oxygen to the muscles and organs. Anemia is a common blood disorder, affecting an estimated 3.4 million people in the US. Other symptoms may include pale skin, fast heartbeat, shortness of breath, chest pain, dizziness, cognitive problems, headache and numb or cold sensations in the extremities.
Things that can cause an iron deficiency are:
What plant based foods are high in iron?
What might you be eating that is acidic therefore hindering iron absorption?
Any acidic drinks such as coffee, tea, soda, alcohol, dairy can reduce iron absorption by 50-90% because iron is an alkaline mineral. When the blood ph gets too acidic then the body dissolves alkaline minerals to keep the ph at approximately a 7. Alkaline minerals in a human body are calcium, potassium, sodium, iron, magnesium, manganese. When these minerals are dissolved in the blood stream then the kidneys and liver have to clean the blood. Often times the reformulation of these minerals cause kidney stones. Other areas in the body that these minerals deposit is in the joints and tops of feet. Dairy is acidic and it's best to avoid it before and after you consume iron rich foods. Better yet, eliminate them. They cause more havoc than not. Another thing to consider is to avoid oxalates. Spinach is high in iron but it is also high in oxalic acid which can hinder iron absorption. I recommend eating other tender baby greens and the wide variety of other lettuces available.
On the contrary, consuming iron-rich foods with a source of Vitamin C helps iron absorption. This includes citrus. You may think citrus acid would block the absorption of iron because it is acidic but it does not. Fruits including citrus are high in alkaline minerals therefore having an alkaline affect on the body.
Why does sunlight help iron absorption?
Iron and Vitamin D are synergistic increasing one often increases the other. Low levels of one associated with low levels of the other. Yes you can take iron supplements and the iron will get into your blood stream but the sunlight affects all your hormones such as hypothalamus, pituitary, thyroid, parathyroid, adrenals, pineal body, ovaries, testes. Sunlight increases your vitamin D naturally therefore balancing your hormones and increasing your mineral absorption. I recommend getting out in the sun during non-harmful hours of the day, either morning or late afternoon for 15 minutes at minimum.
Another thing to consider is that the body can only absorb organic minerals. The chemical structure of the molecule is different. An example is that there is a lot of iron in rock dust which is used to feed plants. Plants get the iron from the rock dust and change the molecular structure . Humans can then get iron from the plants because the plants worked their magic on the iron to make it readily available to humans. But eating rock dust would be no different than eating a rock ground up and our bodies can't easily assimilate it.
Is an iron supplement and organic mineral or an inorganic mineral? I don't know for sure but I'm skeptical and if it was me I would skip the supplement and simply eat plant based iron rich foods, reduce acidic foods and get in the sun.
If someone is iron-deficient right now, I'd suggest to juice a variety of greens and drink it up. That way you know you are getting plenty of nutrients across the board, including iron. Make the juicing of greens a daily or every-other-day habit. Drink it first thing in the morning, before any other food, for max absorption and assimilation. Eventually your iron will catch up and you can switch to a fruit smoothie with some greens.
One thing to play around with is buying pH strips that you can pee on or spit. This will give you an idea of where your blood ph is at during any moment in time. Your blood ph changes with everything you eat so keep in mind that it is only a snapshot at that point in time. When your ph is closer to a 7 then your body will be able to absorb your alkaline minerals such as iron.
I hope this blog post helps people with an iron deficiency. This is advice based on my knowledge and experience. I encourage you to continue to learn about how to take excellent care of your body and become your own best doctor. You all are very capable to improve your health significantly and no-one is going to care about your health more than you. If you have any specific questions about other health related issues then email me at email@example.com and I'll do my best to help answer them. I am constantly learning so feel free to comment.
A part of my healing journey has been to repair broken relationships. Two relationships that I have been repairing are with both of my parents. About a year ago, my parents and I got into an argument. I felt violated and like my parental boundaries as a parent for my own children weren't being respected and I stopped talking to my parents. The details don't really matter. All that matters is that something happened, boundaries were crossed and communication ended. This greatly hurt me as despite everything that happened, I still love my parents, very much. There are two sides to every story and through the mess and my own hurt feelings, I try to see how I could have done things differently. I only have control over myself and my own actions.
My parents have been on a cruise for the past 3 months in lieu of a nursing home. They are able to get 1/2 off cruises and despite it sounding extravagant, it's actually a very smart way to celebrate the end of your life. My parents are able to get a 4 month cruise for $10,000. My father has Alzheimer's disease and his Assisted Memory Care is approximately $6,000 a month. As you can tell, they were able to save money and be in a much more pleasant environment. About 3 weeks ago, my parents were medically evacuated from the cruise ship because my father started to develop incontinence and he was defecating himself due to his disease. My mother proceeded to make the challenging trip home from Hawaii where they had to leave the ship. She stopped in Chicago to see my brothers and while downtown, my father boarded the EL Train and ended up an hour away in Bensenville, IL. My mother had to file a missing persons report to try to find him. Eventually she made it back to her home in Florida and had to put him into a home in Tampa near my older brother while she was selling her house in The Villages. She also has Parkinson's, Crohn's disease, Edema and failing kidney's with bad kidney stones. She needed to move her belongings. My brother was having an addition put on his house for her except he wasn't expecting her for 4 more months and the room is still under construction. His house had no room and my house had lots of room as I was preparing to move and was downsizing. I had to make the decision, do I want to help my mother, the person who I was mad at for the past year.
After hearing about their failing health, I felt scared that they would pass and we wouldn't have mended our relationship. Yes we had a big fight that was terrible but throughout their life there were so many good memories too. My partner didn't want me to mend things because of the turbulence and he was trying to protect me. I had to make the decision to call my mother and tell her that I would help.
I tell her to drive to my house from Tampa and that I will help her with the move. She stays with me for about a week and we talk and we cry and we hug and we apologize and we heal. I feel like this is my spiritual work to step up and help my parents, forgive them and in the process I get to forgive myself. If I expect Grace in my own life then I better be prepared to give it. We prepare my house for all of her furniture. We move everything here and my older brother will come in a few months to pick up the things from my parents house that he would like to keep when the construction is done. In the process, I help my brother, my mother, my children get to know their grandmother and all of a sudden my anger is released. I thank god for not taking them from me before we had a time to makeup.
In the process of moving their belongings, the movers said they never saw so much customized furniture. My father was the president of the Woodshop in The Villages and he customized everything. Track lighting under the bed, storage shelves on wheels for under the bed, special boards to cover a nice oak table to protect it, and wood caricature dolls that hang off the string of the ceiling light , etc. I remember how creative my dad is and I have flashbacks of him saying that he's a happening dude. I laugh as I move his stuff. I see his inner child, his beauty. I find his artwork, his incredibly organized tool bench with jars of screws all in different glass jars. I love all his stuff. My mother helps with with the whole move despite her painful kidneys. The first day that she visits me, I have to take her to the ER for bleeding kidneys all night.
After a week of working all day and night moving, we are able to visit my father. My father loves to walk and I know he hasn't been out of his home since he went in. I think to myself, how can I move him home. I am also in the middle of a move so this makes everything tricky! I take my dad to the park with my mom and my kids. My mom watches the kids play at the playground and I go for a walk with my dad. I wrap my arm under his, he isn't as sturdy as he used to be. He's afraid to leave my mother and she has to tell him it's ok. And we walk through the woods. As my arm is wrapped under his, I reach for his hand and I hold him tight. Even though he is losing some function with his brain, there is a bond between us. The fight was between my mother and me and he was caught in the middle. As we walk, I tell him that I'm sorry. I hold back my tears because I want to be strong for him and I don't want him to see how scared that I am. My dad is calm and he is happy walking with me. All of a sudden our time together is precious and I want more of it.
Back at my house I continue to unpack my mother's belongings and we begin to go through things. Last night she held my son as he sleeps in her arms at night and this morning she reads to my daughter about fairy princesses and I'm content. God gave me precious time to make amends and I can't think of a more profound decision that I've had to make in my life. I know that out of my four brothers and I, I will have to find the strength that I have in my yoga practice to the strength that I'm about to need having to take care of my sick parents and two small children.
I think of the lyrics to Sara Bareilles song Hercules:
This is not the end though
'Cause I have sent for a warrior
From on my knees, make me a Hercules
I was meant to be a warrior please
Make me a Hercules
This is my darkest hour
A long road has lead me out here
But I only need turn around to face the light
And decide to flight or fight
'Cause I have sent for a warrior
From on my knees, make me a Hercules
I was meant to be a warrior please
Make me a Hercules
I also think of Dr Wayne Dyer's advice, "You Have a Choice". "Rely on yourself, and be true to who you are. What's unique about you is what will take you far. Don't look to others to say you're okay. You know it - so believe it! - show your own self the way. Don't blame others for the things you say or do. Every choice that you make is all up to you."
I am my father's child. I am my mother's daughter. Somehow I am stronger than I think I am and as I look forward I have a confidence in myself that I never had before and I think to myself, "I got this". Thank you god for giving me the opportunity to make amends. My heavy heart has been lifted and repairing my relationships with my parents has been so worth it. If there is someone in your life that you are mad at but you still love them anyway. I invite you to try to resolve things. I invite you to find forgiveness in your heart. I invite you to surrender because it's hard to fight when one side surrenders. This whole experience has completely taken me to my knees. As my teacher Shelly would say...if god brings you down to your knees, stay there. I have nothing but love in my heart for my parents and I am doing everything that I can to help them. Peace, Grace, Forgiveness, Love! Many blessings to you all as I have been blessed.
The topic of garlic recently came up for me in a very personal way. I have been practicing a high raw Natural Hygiene diet for about 7 years now. One of the principals of Natural Hygiene is no garlic. The main reasons being that garlic has allicin which is responsible for it's strong pungency and aroma. One of the principals of Natural Hygiene is that if you can't make a meal out of it then it's not food. That is strange to think of eating a meal of garlic and the thought of that just sounds painful. Allicin is commonly used in gardens as a natural pesticide and people often plant it next to other plants to help prevent other plants from any pest invasion. If you rub it on your skin it can cause irritation or blister and burn the skin. From a spirituality perspective, garlic can possibly constrict the vibrational channels or nadis which can be overly stimulating or cloud the mind which can prevent mental clarity or higher states of consciousness.
Garlic is a powerful herb and it is recommended to use it as a medicine but not for daily consumption. It is an antibiotic and we all know that antibiotics do not discriminate between the “bad guys” and the “good guys” in your gut. Cooked garlic have less of an effect because cooking destroys much of the sulfur. Yet, enough of it remains to still harm the friendly bacteria in your gut.
On the other side of the coin I read of many healing properties of garlic including the following:
All that being said, here is my personal story with garlic. I have been avoiding it for the past 6 or 7 years to follow Natural Hygiene principals. If I did have any then it was very small quantities. I have been eating a very high raw low fat vegan diet called Natural Hygiene and there is a shortened book on the topic called 80/10/10 Diet by Dr Douglas Graham. I have felt amazing on this diet except for one thing, I have felt bloated a lot and not knowing why. Is it the diet? Have I been doing something wrong?
About 5 years ago I lived in Ecuador and drank the tap water and used a UV light to purify the water. I ate out at restaurants frequently as well. Both my partner and I did get sick and we had fecal exams that said we had parasites. I took papaya seed blends and a 7 seed anti-parasite seed blend and then thought the problem was solved. 2 years ago I sailed around the world with my parents and at one of the Polynesian islands, I took a bite out of a mango and a white worm crawled out of it! Yikes! Last year I did a 14 day water only fast and thought that I cleaned my body pretty good.
About 2 weeks ago, I ate super garlicky food for the first time in awhile because my dear friend bought me lunch at work. When I went home after work I felt a string hanging down my leg. I reached down and was about to throw it away and then looked again. It was a parasite, round worm! OMG, I never saw one before. I heard stories of people having parasites but it didn't seem real. Even when I had the test in Ecuador, I never saw them and I thought that if I ate clean then they would pass naturally. I have a Natural Hygiene mentor and he said that I would have to do a prolonged water fast of approximately 35 days to get rid of them in order to starve them and he recommended that I take the anti-parasitical medicine because a fast this long can be dangerous if unsupervised. I ended up taking Albendazole. This is also the fist time that I have taken pharmaceuticals in possibly 8-10 years. Natural Hygiene believes that nothing heals the body and it is our job to aid the body by feeding it the right nutrition. There is only one disease and that is toxicity and a deficiency of vitamins and minerals. I do believe that Natural Hygiene heals auto-immune diseases because I've seen it work. My partner had Lyme Disease for 2 years and healed himself through changing his diet along with herbs and something called MMS. I healed my chronic sinusitis and eczema through Natural Hygiene. But what about parasites?
The high fruit diet that I have been on happens to be the perfect food for parasites as well. Worms like compost and that has been essentially what I have been feeding it. Round worms live in the small intestine right where the stomach releases food to the small intestine. It is common to feel bloated when you have a parasite because you keep eating but don't feel full. The reason being, the worms are eating your food. I also wonder what parasites do to your emotions. Your gut is like your second brain and it can make you feel more emotional.
This experience has changed my perspective of garlic, herbs and pharmaceuticals in general. I do see the medicinal benefits of these foods where it was always in debate for me before. I now intend an herbal cleanse so to speak periodically. I don't plan on eating garlic daily but as I said, I will use it as medicine. Like all antibiotics, they don't discriminate between the good guys and the bad guys and the garlic that I ate killed a parasite. If it can kill a parasite then it is also killing the good bacteria in my gut as well. Therefore, eat it but be mindful. It is good not to get so attached to any one idea of eating and to always question everything. I still do a lot to avoid pharmaceuticals but I do see and am grateful to have them in the case emergencies and for me, parasites. Please do your own research. I am simply sharing my experience and story in efforts to help you along with your health journey. I think it is critical for you to learn about health and how to care for your own body. Nobody is going to care about your health more than you and there is so much that you can do that is within your control. I once had a teacher tell me, "Imagine that you have only 1 car your whole lifetime. If you knew that then you might take extra care for your car. You only have one body. What can you do to take the best care of the vehicle that you live in?"
My overall personal experience with Natural Hygiene has been excellent. I have healed almost all of my ailments. I rarely get sick and if I feel it coming on then I'm able to reverse it quickly through fasting, rest and clean eating. My physical performance has been soaring even at 43. My workouts are better than they were in my 20's and I'm able to recover faster and have a more consistent practice. I put in an hour a day to my fitness at an intense level and it has gradually taken off. My yoga practice has never been better and I feel great. I'm honestly excited to have found this parasite because I now know what was wrong and now that it is gone I know my practice will soar even more. I am also open to the benefit of herbs such as garlic as a natural anti-biotic and use it medicinally. Many blessings and I wish you good health and a Happy New Year! It is my goal as a healer to heal my own body, mind and spirit and to teach others to do the same. Peace.
Happy New Year everyone! I'm so excited for the New Year. Last night a yoga friend of mine invited us over for a kiddie friendly New Year's Eve and I have to say that it was the best thing ever. My kids had so much fun with her kids. We had lots of delicious food, sparklers, toys, a big yard to run in and beautiful people to enjoy the evening with. I wake up this morning and the guy to fix the ceiling in the garage will be coming. It looks like I may have to help move things out of the garage and this may be a work day. I'll be happy to get the house in order and I've simply been working on getting things in order.
Today I wanted to talk about my thai yoga teacher's video of his foundational flow. His name is Michael Sitzer and he is amazing. I was first introduced to Thai Yoga in my 200 hr yoga teacher training and loved it. A couple months later I talked to a friend who was interested in this service and it lit a spark in me. I already have a fire passion towards yoga and this allowed me to add a therapeutic healing edge to my private sessions. I loved how it combined yoga with deeper stretching, traction and accupressure. When I work with my thai yoga clients, I follow this flow except I also took his advanced course and I pepper in some advanced moves as well. When I was looking for a teacher I watched A LOT of videos. I came across Michael's and was immediately like, I have to go to this teacher. He is from Asheville North Carolina and he did some workshops in Atlanta. I signed up right away, got in my car and spent a few weekends with Michael.
I am amazed by the healing power of touch. When I got started with thai work, I didn't know what to expect. After working with many clients I have a new view on people in general. Almost everyone that I work with has some kind of emotional or physical pain. I developed a compassion for people in a much more intense way. Many times at festivals, I would have people come down on my mat and simply crave a loving touch. One lady told me that as she has aged, she hardly ever gets touched anymore in a nurturing way. When we are children we climb all over everyone and people constantly pick us up and hug and kiss us. At least I do this with my children. As adults we seem to develop more physical separation. When we interact with each other there seems to be a bubble around us and other people and we never enter into other people's bubble space. I look at myself like a mother to my clients and I nurture them in a loving way as if they are still a child at heart who needs compassion and so much healing. I literally feel loving energy from my hands shooting into them. I see a world in pain and there is so much that we all can do to help heal each other.
One thing that I have been doing is making up with people I care about. There has been some old wounds with me and my brother's and even though we get along and are cordial with each other there still seemed to be some kind of tension. We carry this tension in our tissues. I love my brother's but I realized I was holding onto some anger and it was me who was suffering. I recently called them and said, I know things got messed up somehow but that I love them and I'm sorry for whatever part I may have had in that. I don't care anymore if I'm right or wrong, I surrender because I love them and I know things can be better. I also see that they also suffer so it's good for one of us to break the ice and simply talk about it. When I made these calls to my 4 brothers, I cried. I cried very deeply and I didn't realize how much it affected me until we had this healing conversation. I was able to talk to 3 of my 4 brothers and I think the 4th one simply isn't ready. Anyway, I literally felt an energetic weight lift off of me that I was carrying around. This anger, fear, resentment and negativity is also carried in our tissues. When I work with people I feel their pain. I feel how we are all still like children needing and craving encouragement, validation, love and kindness. For me, thai yoga has been a powerful healer. It's amazing how the power of a loving touch can heal the soul so much. It has encouraged me to be brave and heal my own wounds that I carried around with me. Our issues are in our tissues as they say. As we open our bodies it is not uncommon to release some of these emotions. I have often had people cry as they are being stretched because they are releasing so much this emotional tension. As a healer, it is rewarding for me to simply let the healing begin.
Check out Michael's video and if you think you could benefit from this type of service then let me know. I would love to work with you. Simply click on the contact page for my information and let's work it out together. You are not alone.
I finished my 30 day meditation project and I'm looking for what's next. Well, I discovered through that project that I like daily writing and I want to continue. I also discovered that right after my meditation project that I stopped meditating all together. In efforts to create some sort of ritual, I am now creating my blog. I like the process of meditating before I write for about 30 minutes simply to listen to my thoughts. What is coming up?
Today I woke up at 3am because I had a nightmare and I couldn't go back to sleep. I dreamed that I was playing out by my pool with my two kids having fun. I was working on something and was pre-occupied. My 6 year old daughter was swimming with a friend in the pool and I felt safe, like if anything happened then I would hear screams, splashing or something like that. In my dream, my 3 year old son fell into the pool and was drowning. I was busy doing some kind of work, it was hard to tell in the dream and my daughter or her friend didn't know anything was wrong. A few years back I was at a kiddie play date and the pool was filled with kids and adults. A mom yelled to me to grab her child. I looked over and saw that her child was drowning for real. They weren't under water for long thank god but it really scared me because it was happening right next to me and I didn't notice and I assumed that kids who couldn't swim would have floaties on. I also didn't notice because it was silent the whole time it happened. You think that a drowning will be loud with lots of splashing but many times it happens under water and you can't hear a thing. Back to my dream, I picked my son out of the water and my daughter said he was under water 7 minutes. I was trying to burp him to get him to cough up water but he didn't move. I was about to do CPR because I remembered how to do it for small children in a class I took and I woke up in a panic. I had to go into my kids bedroom to check on them. They were sleeping peaceful like two beautiful angels. I am so blessed to have them in my life! They are so sweet and innocent and I'm doing everything I can to love them and parent them as best I can. Why do we as parents even have scary dreams like that? Has this ever happened to you? I tried to go back to sleep but couldn't. I gave up and watched business videos and then did a 30 minute meditation.
It's New Year's Eve and I wonder if I'll even be up for New Year's Eve now since I woke up so darn early and couldn't sleep. I have plans to go to a new friend's house for a kiddie New Year's Eve playdate. I'm always excited to do playdates with my kids because they really love playing with other kids toys and getting to know other children. They are happy and I'm happy.
After I woke up I was watching videos on creating a business. Tomorrow is Jan 1, 2019 and I'm thinking of goals for the New Year and rituals, routines or schedules to do that. What changes in my life do I need to make in order to make this successful? I already know that I have an intense passion for health. My parents are both very sick and I watched my mother suffer since I was 17 with severe Crohn's disease to the point where she eventually opted to cut her whole large intestine out. She now has a colectomy bag and has developed kidney stones, Parkinson's Disease and Edema. My dad, who was the smartest person that I knew now has Alzheimer's Disease. I also suffered from Eczema and Chronic Sinusitis and my ex-husband had Lyme's Disease for 2 years before we discovered natural health.
All of this impacted me in a way that I can't describe. In a way it was a blessing because it motivated me to learn how to take care of myself. I learned how to take excellent care of my body through healthy eating and yoga. I'm in the middle of a yoga teacher training and now I am healing my soul from past pains in life. Other people might call it shadow work. I've been looking into my dark side so that I can heal my fears that have been holding me back in life from coming into the fullest expression of myself. I have been through so much and I have learned so much and I want to write a book on my experiences to help others. This blog is the beginning of my writing ritual so that I can eventually write a book about healing. It's an effort to flush out my ideas because I have so many of them and they seem to lack some organization. It's also exciting at the same time because I know my passion and I'm beginning to flush out ideas for the new year.
I plan to simplify my life this New Year in order to help me achieve these goals. A big thing that I have been working on is selling my house and downsizing. I currently live in a 3 bedroom 2 bath home alone with 2 kids on .7 acres. The maintenance of a home being a single mother has been distracting for me. I am trying to create a business and I have an older home that requires a lot of maintenance and it's taking my time away from other things that I want to work on. An example is that I heard something in my walls late at night. I had a pest control come and for 3 weeks we thought it was a rats but caught nothing on the rat traps. Finally we caught a baby squirrel. I pay to have the holes sealed up and the trappings and now I have to thing about cutting my trees back away from the house because squirrels can jump up to 15 feet! Crazy. In the process, the pest guy stepped on the drywall at my house that had to get repaired and he also found a roof leak where I used to have a satellite dish. I had a friend take it down and they used silicone to patch up the holes except silicone breaks down in the heat and they needed to use tar. I had another repair guy come to check out the roof. He said he hurt his back but wanted a picture of the roof. His wife offered to go up into my roof and take the photo. She climbed up the ladder and her foot slipped off one of the rafters and she fell through the ceiling in my garage! OMG! Seriously, there are times I wish my life was boring. She landed on the garage door, thank god, or she would have landed all the way on the garage floor. I raced up the attic ladder so fast to help this lady. Now I have to fix a hole in the ceiling of my garage. All this stuff is taking up my time on projects that I don't want to work on. I want to work on my business. Simplifying my life will help all that. I have to finish taking care of any repairs but after that, I want this place sold so I can move on with my life.
I have also been working on mending relationships with people who have been dear to me. How do things get messed up in the first place with people we love? I really do love the people in my life so much and I want them to know they are important to me. I've been working on myself, my fears and trying to resolve my responsibility in how things got messed up and move on from there. It has been incredibly healing for me to do this work. It's also been very humbling. At the end of the day, I would rather be humble and happy than right.
Anyway, that's it for today. Do you set goals for the New Year? Is there anything in your life that you need to heal? Your body, mind or spirit? I encourage you to look within yourself and begin your healing journey, especially for the New Year. Write down some goals...how can you live a better life? I once did a training that allowed for three things that you wanted to change or could improve and three things that you did well. This kept things positive as it's easy to only look at what we did wrong but it's also important to recognize our successes as well. I wish each and every one of you a blessed New Year's Eve. Much love.
Yay! My super type A self made it to a full 30 days of meditation! No it wasn't 30 days in a row but I did it. If I fell off the wagon, I simply got back on. I have to admit, this did require some discipline. I did things like, go to bed early so I had some extra time in the morning to meditate. I found that I was more likely to meditate if I did it first thing in the morning. I was able to do it at night and in the middle of the day as well but that wasn't as common. There's something about the stillness and quiet of the morning that makes this the perfect time to zen out.
I sit on my ottoman again, set the timer and bliss out. My mind runs through all the tasks that I need to do to sell my house, drop price, move this piece of furniture to the other house, clear out the dog room and make it River's bedroom, sell this, sweet pine needles off the pool house, etc.
It's a quiet time of the year and I know it will get busy so I think, how can I prepare? What can I do now so that when it gets busy, then my life is easier? This is such a big change for me. I feel the sense of loss for selling this house because I put so much time, energy and love into it. But at the same time I feel a lightness for being free to take the next steps in life. It's like a new chapter is about to begin.
For some reason, I've been feeling happy lately. Mostly because I am having such a good time teaching yoga and connecting with my students. I have new friends and relationships in my life and it's been fun. Today I'm going to see Bumblebee at the theaters in 3D and I'm excited to take my kids because my little boy is in LOVE with Transformers. I'm happy to have them home for Christmas break and to be able to spend time with them. I am so lucky to have the best kids ever. They are a challenge for me, don't get me wrong but they are also super sweet and loving. Last night we watched The Iron Giant and River my 3 year old was telling me the whole plot line. It was adorable listening to his baby voice talk about the movie.
There is so much to write about but the buzzer buzzes and my time is over. Thank you for listening if you have been following this. I love and appreciate each and every one of you. From my heart to yours, peace! Happy Holidays everyone!
Hello beautiful people,
It's getting close to the end. I sit outside around 1pm on my back lanai and gaze out at the trees and nature. I love this view. I close my eyes, breath in the fresh chilly air and I'm off.
I hear a chainsaw in the distance. I think about borrowing this chainsaw and trimming a lot of the trees in my yard. I start to envision myself like a professional tree cutter and I can't help but to peek my eyes open and look around for all the skinny little branches that I would cut. There is an oak tree next to the side of my house that is starting to get very close to my house. I had the pest control guy at my house and we set tons of traps everywhere and caught nothing. I hear the noises in my walls still. We think that it's possible that a squirrel got into the roof and the noises in the wall are baby squirrels not rats and they are trapped in my walls somehow. I have to cut the wall open to get them out. I told the pest guy let's schedule this asap. He already sealed all the holes around my roof. I would cut the branches down that are getting close to my house to avoid this problem in the future.
My left hamstring is sore. I pulled it a couple weeks ago doing the splits and it hasn't fully recovered. When I hurt my SI joint, stretching helped it a lot and now it's completely recovered. When I stretch my left hamstring then it seems to aggravate it. I did a 90 minute yoga flow this morning and maybe that's why it hurts. I'm going to have to back off of this leg and let it rest. It aches as I sit in my meditation seat. I hate getting sore and having to miss any yoga. I'm progressing so much and I want to keep going. Sometimes you have to take a step back to move forward. Bummer.
I took pills for the parasites, yay! I don't know if they are gone but I think so. We will see. Having to take pills for this kind of rocks my whole Natural Hygiene belief that Nothing Heals the Body but the Body, except pills when you have a parasite. I wonder what other exceptions there may be. Natural Hygiene is also anti garlic. A parasite came out after eating garlic and garlic is anti-parasitical. So does that mean no garlic unless you have a parasite. All these exceptions make me question my attachment to natural hygiene. I feel like there is a lot of research that can be done here to evolve the field of Natural Hygiene more.
I think about selling my house and packing all my stuff up. What a pain, I think. It is so much work to move but it is something that I've wanted to do for a long time now. Now is the time to make the move and make some serious changes in my life for the better. I'm scared but I move forward despite these fears. I've got this. I believe in myself now in a way that I never have before. I'm on the right track and I notice this shift in my energy. I feel empowered and stronger. I'm less and less affected by outside influences and living my life the best that I know how. Overall, I am very lucky. I am doing something that I truly love. I have two beautiful kids who are driving me to be a better person and their supportive dad. Life is good. I feel light. I feel joy.
I'm so thankful that my dear friends took my little boy to Disney today. They are like an Uncle to him as his real Uncles live far away. I saw a picture of him on the merry go round and he looked so happy. My little girl is in school and is growing up fast. I told her that if she can make 7 days of no peeing in her bed then she can open a Christmas present early. She did it! Just like that. This has been an on-going problem and a little bribery has solved the problem. I told her that if she makes five more days then she can open another one. She is so proud of herself and I tell her, "wow, you are getting big!" she puffs out her chest, giggles with pride. I am proud of her.
The buzzer goes off and I open my eyes. I run inside and grab socks for my feet. Burr! I have a 90 minute private lesson today and I teach yoga tonight. I can't wait to see my students. I put a lot into my classes in efforts to deliver something really wonderful for them. I hope they enjoy my classes:) . Now time to choreograph:) . Goodbye beautiful people.
Hello my lovelies,
Wow, I am almost finished with my 30 day meditation challenge. I have to admit it was super hard for me to start this project but as I continue, I see the value of having a regular practice. I will continue on but not sure how that will take shape yet.
Today I sit at my kitchen table while I meditate. I love that the back of my house is covered with windows overlooking nature. My kitchen table is at one of these windows and I sit facing the windows. I close my eyes and go off to la la land.
Many things come up. To begin, I was working an event at Nieman Marcus the other day and my friend got a lot of garlicky food for us for lunch. Garlic is anti-parasitical. At the end of the day I felt a string hanging off my thong. I reached down and grabbed it and looked. I was holding a parasite! AAAAAAAhHHHHHH! This was a round worm called ascaris lumbricoides. OMG, I never even believed this stuff was real! I saw this in dogs that I've taken care of but never heard of it in a human. I traveled overseas a lot within the past 2 years and I have taken care of a lot of dogs and these are two possible places that I could have gotten it. It's usually comes from dirty water, food or soil. Yuck! I didn't even know I had it and who knows how long it was there. They can live up to 2 years inside of you and who knows if they reproduced. They live in the small intestine right where the stomach lets out food. A common symptom is a feeling of hunger even though you eat a lot leaving you feeling bloated. The reason being that the worms are eating your food. I take 400 mg of Albendazole. I'm usually anti-pharmaceuticals but I asked my natural hygiene mentor about it and even he recommended prescription drugs and I think this is an emergency! I also take anti-parasite tinctures, tons of garlic and cinnamon. I'm freaked out but in a way relieved because I know why I had this bloated feeling and I can take care of it now. I continuously am surprised by the things that happen in my life. I could have never anticipated this. I'm simply thankful to have discovered what is wrong and having the means to rectify it.
My next thought jumps to my little girl. I'm struggling with this parenting thing sometimes. She is 6 and very strong willed. The other day I was at Lucky's at the checkout and she had to go to the bathroom. I'm frustrated because she wouldn't go when we first walked in and all went together and now I'm at the checkout line with all my stuff on the conveyor belt and she has to pee bad. I tell her to go and have to trust that she can make it through the store alone. I wait with my 3 year old and continue to finish the checkout. He asks to sit in the front of the cart where my 6 year old was sitting. Sure I think. I finish the checkout and find my girl and we walk out of the store. My daughter wants to sit back in the front of the cart now my son wants to stay seated at the front of the cart and she throws a full out tantrum. I tell her the car is right here it's only a short walk or I can put her in the cart. She refuses. I start walking and she follows crying but at a distance. I feel a little stuck because my hands are full and I have my son. If only I can drop this off then I can get her I think. I drop off the groceries and my son in the car and I walk back to get my daughter who has decided to take a seat in the middle of the parking lot. I'm pretty mad at this point because I'm worried about her. I tell her to get in the car and she cries, "I only wanted to sit in the cart". I go to pick her up and she runs away from me. She runs towards the car and I chase her. She runs really fast. I change directions and try to trick her. We are circling the car at this point and my little athletic daughter is out running me and won't get in the car. We look absolutely ridiculous and I'm really mad now. I have to trick her and say let's talk and she finally calms down. I get close to her and I'm able to lunge towards her and pick her up and put her in the car. I yell at her to never run in the parking lot like that because she is little and can get hit by a car. I lose my yogi mind for a moment and then I'm perplexed. How could I have handled this differently? We go to Discount Tires to get my tire fixed and the whole time she wants to sit by me and be close to me. I think, what was her unmet need? Why wouldn't she listen? Why is she being so stubborn about something so trivial? The only thing I can think of is that she wants her mommies love and attention. I reach around her and give her a big hug and tell her I love her. She softens. I love her so much but I am challenged and I think to myself, she is only 6, I am in trouble. How can I deal with these situations in the healthiest way? I don't always want to give her what she wants because sometimes I have to say no and I need her to listen. Ugh.
My little boy is the opposite. He is a super introvert, quiet, extremely sensitive and very bashful. I think, how can I give him some of my daughter's bold. Overall, I'm so blessed to have these beautiful babies. We go home and make Ginger Bread houses and the whole time they are trying to please me. I think, how can I soften? How can I be a better mom?
Finally I think about how disconnected our society is and how this disconnect is only creating separation which leaves us feeling alone. After working a full day of thai yoga at Nieman Marcus, I don't get one person on my mat that isn't in some kind of physical or emotional pain. We need to be there for each other. We need to be kind and loving and compassionate. As far as I'm concerned, we are all innocent trying our best to navigate ourselves through this world. The more we hide our feelings, pain and tramas the more we carry our wounds around with us. We need to be heard. We need unconditional love and we need to be able to process our feelings somehow. At the Woodstock fruit festival in New York we did something called Circling where everyone opens up about something that is weighing heavy on our minds. This way we all see that we all have things to deal with. We all open up and become vulnerable and we all come together with compassion and support for each other. However you can find a circling group, I encourage you to find it. If we are all really One and if the world is truly an abundant place then the more we raise each other up the better off the collective whole. Sometimes a person who does something that we would judge as bad needs help more than punishment. Let's be there for each other in a way where we aren't looking to get something out of it. We do it because there isn't enough love in the world. How many of us can honestly say, yes I have enough love in my life? If you don't then think of ways that you can give it without expecting anything in return. Just my thoughts. From one healer, hoping that you all become a healer of some sorts in your own circle of influence. Most importantly I hope you all look deep within to heal any anger, trama, resentment or pain that you have. How can you find forgiveness? How can you let that energy go so that creative energy can flow through you?
The buzzer rings, my fingers and toes are freezing in the chilly Florida December weather. Time to run to Yin class with my mentor and dear friend. Goodbye my lovelies. Share the love.
Today I meditate on my ottoman again at 10am. It's becoming my favorite spot during the colder central Florida winters. I am from Chicago where it is cold and I never got used to it nor do I miss it. As far as I'm concerned, the only time to go in the snow is if I want to go snowboarding and I haven't done that in a long time! Snowboarding used to be my best sport as I grew up skiing and I snowboarded a lot during my early 20's in California. I loved the mountain views, the fresh air and the serenity of being on the mountains.
Anyway, I close my eyes and think about the wakeful darkness I am in. I'm wide awake with my eyes closed which feels kind of funny as I want to open them. I try to see the back of my eyelids but only feel my eyes flicker in darkness. I hear the clock ticking and the weird noises that my refrigerator makes. I started sitting with my feet on the floor and move half way through to a cross legged position while I sit up tall. I sit up tall to align my chakras and practice my ujjayi breath. I breath deep inhales and constrict the back of my throat as I exhale. I enjoy the peaceful quietness of my clean house alone. The kids are at school and I get four house of alone time. I need to choreograph my yoga routine for tonight's class. I'll do that after my meditation. I love the choreographing part. Sometimes ideas are flying out of my mind faster than I can get them down. I am building quite the collection of notebooks with my routines. Some I borrow and others I make up on my own.
Lately I have been in a funk and I'm trying to dig myself out of it. I know we all have the power to choose how we feel and as I'm sitting in my funk, I am trying to figure out why I'm in it in the first place and how can I actively choose to get out of it. I'm starting to realize that my self esteem relies on the validation of others and attention from men. Pathetic I know! Attention makes me feel happy. So I've been looking up tons of youtube videos on this topic so that I can learn about it and I'm also resisting the urge to dial someone up. It's not that I still don't want attention, I do. It's just that I am not shy about this, if I want something then I can manipulate a situation and make it happen. My issue with this is that I want an authentic connection and I have to have patience to let that unfold naturally. If I make something happen it is happening out of my loneliness and lack of comfortability to be alone. It's like a drug where I get a temporary high but what goes up also comes down. I want to be happy alone and with someone else. I want to master myself and it's fucking hard! I honestly feel like this is a lesson from the universe to be at peace with myself. I want to have control over my life and not have it be dictated by the opinions of others. I also want someone who is in alignment with me and I realize I have a lot of unique interests. Wow, I just wrote a lot of I want sentences, lol.
Another area where I feel like I am getting a lot of opinions is on the topic of polyamory. There are lots of people for it and lots of people against it. How do I feel about it? I feel like polyamory is triggering my shadow self and forcing me to look at my own dark side and it's uncomfortable. Does that mean that the experience is not worth it? In my opinion, I am learning at a rapid rate about myself. Polyamory is presenting one situation after another for me to master through relationships. I actually love relating with others and I don't want to stop. It doesn't mean that it's easy but as I continue on this path and as I continue to learn more, it is getting easier and easier to love people without attachment. When things come up for me, as they have consistently, then I have an opportunity to better myself. Nobody said growth was going to be easy.
The other day I had a friend over and she was listening to dating videos from the girl perspective. I was just thinking about how the guy videos say don't date a woman with kids and don't date someone who wants a meal ticket but get sex and the girl videos say don't have sex right away or the man doesn't respect you. The girl videos talk about how we should make the guys court us, etc, etc, etc, then we know they really care. I think about this social programming that guys and girls are receiving and I see how both sides are holding out and both sides are not getting what they are looking for completely. I think there has to be some kind of compromise and everything is not completely black and white. I also think these videos are not helpful because every situation is different and we should independently make our own decisions instead of following a template of dating rules. These dating rules limit us from all the possibilities out there in my opinion.
My parents have been on a cruise throughout Asia and have been cruising instead of using a nursing home because my mom says that it's cheaper. Well, they are getting kicked off the ship because of my dad's Alzheimer's and he keeps defecating himself. My older brother is in the middle of construction on his house to have a section made for my parents. I'm the only other one in Florida. They are selling their house, it closes Jan 22nd. So, I offered for them to stay here. They could stay at my brother Brent's house in Chicago as well. I might completely regret this as my mom and I fight all the time. We actually never resolved our past fight where we didn't talk for over a year. For me the hard part is that I still love my parents, and I don't want them to pass like this. I want us to get along and to be there for them in the same way that they have been there for me. I will have to find an assisted living situation for my dad. I wonder if this would be good for my mom as well. My mom can stay at my house until my house sells or until my older brother's house is finished. Whatever is first, please hurry construction people! This is going to be incredibly hard because their health is very poor for both of them and they have a lot of trips to the hospital. They are barely 70 and they suffer incredibly with their health. Their poor health has been a huge reason why I have wanted to be a healer. I can't stand watching them suffer. My mother's health has been poor since I was 17 when she had a botched hysterectomy and they accidentally cut her colon during surgery.
The other night I let my kids sleep in bed with me. I have to be careful to allow them to do this because they will want to sleep with me every night if I let them. They have been busy at school and I have wanted to be affectionate with them and give them a little extra love. When they were babies I slept with them. I read a book called Creating Healthy Children through Attachment Parenting and Raw Foods. The concept is that the child is so secure with the parents love for them that they choose to leave the nest earlier because they have extra confidence. I think there needs to be some kind of compromise with this as well or mommy and daddy never have alone time. Anyway, I let them sleep with me and I have to say from a mother's perspective, nothing is better than holding your babies and cuddling with them. They are so precious and I treasure this time. I know they will grow up and this will all come to an end so occasionally I let them cuddle with me. They fit perfectly in my arms and love being help and loved on. We went to Walmart to buy Christmas presents. I let them pick out their own gifts and we wrap presents together today. They love the whole process, the buying and picking out, the wrapping and the waiting till Christmas day to open them with constant pleas to open one present early. I giggle at their excitement and joy for the holidays. They are the best and we often say to each other, "I'm so glad you are here". Sometimes being a mommy is super challenging but overall they are my angels motivating me to get my life in order so that I can be a good role model for them. Most of all, I'm so glad they are in my life. Many blessings my lovelies. Until next time as the alarm goes off. I finally get to open my eyes and see the light. I think, I am so blessed to be where I am in my life. I love all the ups and downs and I think...what a ride it has been!
Hello Beautiful People,
Today, I wake up at 3:30am and can't sleep. Anxiety, ugh! I worry about what to do after I sell my house and future career moves. I worry about new schools for my kids, child-care and all the details. I get up and listen to Wayne Dwyer about Creating a New Life because that's essentially what I am doing. I'm making big changes to add convenience to my life, to improve my career and to create better relationships. I seek and want to be around other like minded people. These changes are empowering and forcing me to deal with a lot of fears. One of my biggest fears which is happening is being a single mother. I never thought I would get divorced. I was faithful the whole time. I put a lot of effort, love and energy into my marriage and somehow it didn't work out how I planned or hoped no matter how hard I tried. It's nobody's fault, instead I look at it as the universe guiding us. Sometimes I think it's the concept of marriage and monogamy for life that sets us up for failure as so many of us have a hard time doing it. My relationship is changing. Honestly this has been the most difficult thing for me to do in my life. My heart aches.
I think about my parents failing health. They sold their house and are having an estate sale. It is my job to go to their house and take what I want. For most people they would look at this as a fun thing to do. For me, with the process of selling my own house and not knowing where I'll move to, this has been paralyzing. A part of me wants some of their things because they are sentimental and I feel their energy in their belongings and another part of me wants less stuff because it will be more difficult to move later on. Thankfully my older brother is renting a van and will be dropping off stuff for me. I simply need to go there and choose. I am having a hard time making the trip. It's very emotional for me to see my parents give up their house and move into other situations because they can no longer care for themselves.
I brainstorm about how I can be the most efficient and productive with my time. How can I be more present as a mother and still deal with all these difficult life changes? How can I be a better judge of people so that I invite only people who are really sincere and kind and loving? How can I live a more authentic life? How can I be a better yoga teacher? How can I soften? Another thing that comes to mind is that I push myself very hard. My mother had her PHD and 5 kids before she was 29. I grew up with her driving force and yes it has impacted me. I am able to get a lot of things done and I'm very motivated but it's also tough because I see the importance to slow down and to be kind and gentle with myself. I am doing a lot. I am making positive changes. How can I be content with that?
If you are still reading this, thank you for your love and support. The journey continues. I think the mice and rat traps in the attic worked because I no longer hear them. I can't wait for the pest man to come back and check. If they are gone then we can seal the house up properly. Hooray! Life is a blessing and simply living in a pest free home is awesome! I have to remind myself to be content and happy with where things are at. All is well, I'm right where I'm supposed to be.